What is Love?[Essay]

This is a post on love. This is a post on happiness.

The age old question on "What is love?" as popularized by Haddaway still appears by many an unanswered question. Or perhaps simply an answer that deeply varies from one person to another.

Maybe we were all wrong. Maybe Haddaway is love.

In a relationship, it seems to me, that love is a choice. You choose to love another, and for them to return the love. Love is also a commitment, it's work. It's a private oath between companions on that choice, that commitment. On the good days and the bad. It's a trust that builds over time after the initial leap of faith. 

As a wise man once taught me: "Marriage isn't the end; Marriage is the beginning of the first game of the season. Every date, every relationship is a tryout, or a practice for that big game." I'd go farther to say the courtship before the marriage is the final practices with your teammate for the coming season. More practice gives you greater perspective of who you're working with, what they're strengths and weaknesses are for you to uplift the other in the rough times.

"Marriage isn't the end; Marriage is the beginning of the first game of the season. Every date, every relationship is a tryout, or a practice for that big game."

For me this is the perspective I use in a world that more quickly celebrates the marriage reception than the ones that celebrate the tenth, the twentieth anniversary(though I imagine many of them would vehemently deny this). Those that publicly proclaim a love that hasn't been tried right after the honeymoon, nothing more than the initial infatuation that hasn't worn off. And of those that so quickly get engaged, be it two weeks or two months.

This leads me to 'happy endings'. It seems that with a happy beginning leads to a 'happily ever after', seriously go watch every Disney Princess movie ever, the marriage is always at the end of the film. When it seems to me that happy tales and the life we live comes not only to the times we were happy, but the times that made our life for the better, even if it's the mistakes we made.

No you're right. Immaculate marriage totally beats out hard work and sacrifice.

Should not our love be the privately held moments and memories between a couple, than the moments announced before the world? Just love and be loved. It's the little signs that make for a life time of happiness.

"Hold hands, and never let go."

Especially if you find the Doctor.